Face reality 99.9% of the times you likely will not like the answers to these simple questions and your conversations will quickly deteriorate, giving your ex justification for dumping you.

Do you really want to hear, "I've got a date" or "Anything, but, something with you."

Then one day, while he was in an incredibly positive mood, he decided to pay a visit and share some of the events of his incredible day. He had stopped by unannounced on dozens of occasions before and was always welcomed with open arms. He thought: What could be different now?

They still supposedly cared for each other, surely it would be no different now.

He buzzed the apartment. "ZZZZZZZZ" - he was let in. He headed up to his exes place, as always the door was unlocked and as always he let himself in. What happened next illustrates a magnitude of trauma that few would be able to ever recover from. A discovery so horrific that most would be left quivering and shaking on the floor, broken and defeated waiting for the pending 'living autopsy' of a shattered life.

I'll no longer delay the suspense, what he discovered was his ex was "entertaining", traumatic enough by itself, but get this, remember back in 2003 when his last ex was "entertaining", it was the same guy. What are the odds, my heart sunk when I heard this story. It was pure coincidence, his two ex's don't know each other.

Now my poor friend once again was faced with rejection. He questioned everything about his life and his whole relationship. He fought back the tears and was faced with wondering:

*What's wrong with me?

*And, every time his ex doesn't pick up the phone is she: "entertaining?"

The point is, and I can't stress it enough: if you actually want to recover from lost love: Get away and heal yourself.

Pull yourself from the dating game for awhile and quit being so needy. Trust me, doing so is a lot better than the images that will be playing in your head every time you don't get the answer or attention that you desire from your ex.

Being dumped sucks. Being friends with the dumper sucks even more.

As for my poor friend, in another year or two, when he let's down his guard again and allows love in the door, I just hope for his sake if it ends, he'll be the one doing the: "entertaining."

Note: It is very important to understand that neither of the exes did anything wrong. The relationship was over and regardless of whether they did horrible things during the relationship, once they gave out the pink slip all obligations ended.