Is Your Love Life on the Back Burner? Sometimes people allow the desire for love to sit on the back burner because they feel they don't have time. But, could it be they don't make the time? How realistic is it to expect the dream of a loving relationship to come true, without making any effort? In Hawaiian Shamanism there is a principle that states, "Energy flows where attention goes.” In other words, what you choose to focus on is where your energy automatically goes. Where do you want to put your energy? You can long to meet someone OR you can do something about it. Consciously choosing love as a priority is what makes it possible. Finding Love is Like any Other Goal To achieve any goal, action steps have to get on your "to do” list. This is why finding a mate is no different than any other objective, like getting into shape, saving for retirement and finding a new job. For any of these achievements to materialize, you need to concentrate on it, create an action plan, and commit to executing it. The Best Time to Get Started It's easy to busy yourself with the daily grind, and avoid getting out there. Doing something new can be daunting and procrastinating is part of human nature. So, how can you make finding love a priority? Ask yourself this question, "If not now, when?” You can start tomorrow, in two weeks or two years. The choice is yours. But, how will putting it off help you meet someone? If you truly desire a loving relationship, NOW is the best time to take the first step. Fear is a natural emotion that often accompanies any new endeavor. You may be uncertain of where to start or what to do first. Keep in mind this simple Chinese proverb, "The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Even a small step counts, like mentioning to a few friends that you would like to meet someone. Suggestions to Get Started Here is a list of ideas that will get you started on the road to finding love: 1. Look in the newspaper for a calendar listing of singles events and pencil a few on your own calendar 2. Attend a live speed dating event - visit one of these sites to learn more: 8minutedating.com, Hurrydate.com, Speeddating.com 3. Find out if your Church or Synagogue holds singles events or dances and go! 4. Enlist a friend as your dating buddy and motivate each other to get out there 5. Sign up for an online dating service, get some good photos, create an interesting profile and get started! 6. Check sites like Singlesonthego.com or CraigsList.org 7. Mention to your friends, family, neighbors, and associates that you would like to meet someone to share life with. This is the best way to generate blind dates. 8. Hire a matchmaker to do the search for you! You probably have a financial planner or an accountant, so why not work with a professional to find the love you want? Visit Greatdatenow.com in Connecticut or look for others in your area. 9. Work with a dating coach who will motivate, inspire, and provide you with the key secrets to effective dating today. See the resource box below to learn more about coaching. The Only Thing You Have to Lose is Your Single Life You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by getting your dating campaign underway. Why wait? There are plenty of good people who would be thrilled to have your love and support. The only way you are likely to meet the "one,” is to get out there. Make finding love a priority in your life. Don't wait another day to connect with the love you deserve.